titles are overrated
Sorry for the temporary leave of absense.....
Life is crazy and I'm too unmotivated for it :-P
Our V-day was spent looking at apt's in the town we want to move to and the school I would be transferring to. Turns out that if I transfer there, I have 3 remaining semesters instead of 2.
We love the town, we love the apartments we looked at, but the school was so dang frustrating. It was such a turn-off to go there.... agghhh
So, I'm actually considering dropping out of school. It complicates things, and there's no real point. I have no intention of using the degree and it's a whole lot of loans to pay back for nothing. If I don't go to school, we can pull in 2 incomes instead of 1 and won't have to scrape every penny and have him work himself ragged every day of the week as many hours as he can- just to pay our bills and eventual student loans. Plus, I'm so unmotivated for school right now that it isn't even funny. I hate my classes and I hate doing homework or studying. I know I'm just lazy, but maybe I'm not even meant to be there. I was forced into this semester and I ended up hating it, just like I thought. I had planned on starting an Early Childhood Development degree as soon as I was done with the biology one... maybe I need to start that now instead of wasting another year and half getting this bachelor's. Here's the problem with all of that. I'll have to tell every single employer that I did 3 years of college and then quit, I'll never be able to say I have a degree, and if we NEED me to have a career, I won't be able to. What I want to do is work with kids, but someday I may need to do something that pays really well. Plus half of my family has pretty much threatened me into finishing my degree. They think I'm throwing my life away for a boy. Am I? I know with all of my heart that he's the person meant to be my husband and I know it's righter than anything for us to be married this August. We want me to be able to raise our kids, I don't want a career. Why is it so important for me to have a degree?
Here's the other factor of our future life-- His job. We already know that he has to be part time at his current job and get another part time job. His current salary isn't enough. We've been so focused on him keeping his current job because it's so great, but why? It makes more sense to calm down and just get a new job. At the same time we don't feel it's right to leave.
Who the crap knows........ congrats on getting to this place of my post- awake. You need an award for reading all the way through :)
If you're still with me, any and all advice is appreciated.
posted by TonyandKaylen @ 2:17 PM
3 Comments:
i think degrees are over-rated.
but on the one hand ~ you are so close to getting one, so part of me thinks you may as well finish.
on the other hand ~ if you aren't going to use that degree, why waste the time and money and cause yourself financial stress down the road?
tough call. but i say do what you want to do, and not what everyone else thinks you should do. you won't want to feel like kicking yourself in the pants later. and i don't think you're throwing your life away for a boy ~ like i said, if you aren't planning on using that degree, why bother? but i'm sure many would disagree.
but on the other hand, even if you never use the degree it might be nice to know you have one. what if someday you need to take care of yourself for some reason or another, it's probably easier to finish it now, then to have to go back to school later. education, is never a waste, it makes us more aware of the world around us, it creates a better understanding (and so also obligation) to those around us. does that make any sense?
i too would like to stay home and raise my kids someday, but I think education is so important even for women who don't plan on using theirs, it's just good to know that need be you CAN take care of yourself, even if you hopefully never have too.
but this is all just me talking. i think educating myself is very important. i'm aware that others don't feel the same, and thats fine too. most impostnatly i think you need to decide what will work out best in the long run for you and your soon to be husband.
I am in agreement with both Robyn and Amy. In marriage it is very important to be self-sufficient and individual. Maybe you need to get a degree for no other reason than to have a sense of accomplishment about yourself so you can feel confident in your marriage that you're quite smart and capable. (that's a huge problem for married women).
Most importantly, just look to Jesus. He will lead you and guide you accordingly. Maybe you won't have the answer you're looking for until August 11th, or well after, but ultimately he will take care of you and provide for you, so cast your cares upon Him for he will take care of you!!!
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