today I am tired

Thanks for your advice, Brit. I spent the whole 45 minute drive calming myself down and getting to a place where I could be excited and welcoming. It was wonderful to see him. He was his classes' valedictorian and he got the integrity award (by class vote). I don't think you fully miss someone until they're home again.
Oh, and I think I will indeed lock Ethan in the closet until he's grateful, next time!! (and note to self- never let brit babysit....) that comment made me laugh really hard.